Being mean isn’t cool.
I sometimes wonder why on earth people have this obsessive desire to be particularly cold and manipulative when it takes so much effort to do so. You have to go out of your way to pick on someone, and I really do wonder what possesses someone to treat someone as if they’re worthless.
I’m going to try not to give an X-Factor-worthy sob story about how hard my childhood was, growing up in an predominantly white, upper class environment. Yes, it was horrendous. I developed anxiety as a result of the teachers’ treatment towards me, and there are times where I lose the constant battle I have with this cruel and unforgiving mental illness. I was made to feel like a failure at everything. I was picked on for standing up against their cruel accusations of being a disruption in class. They had their favourites and I simply wasn’t one of them, so naturally they made my life hell. Shit happens.
I hate to sound so bitter but there’s no way of sugar-coating an experience so traumatising in such an influential period of my life. My point to this is that it was highly unnecessary. My form tutor and my “head of pastoral care” who soon came to claim the title of headteacher both accused me of anything and everything under the sun. I used to sit in the back and do my work silently but that wasn’t enough for them. And it was intentionally malicious; they set out to humiliate me in front of classmates. But why? What did it achieve for them? A momentary sense of satisfaction to exploit an authoritative position and the trust of one’s parents simultaneously without them knowing, sure but what real gain was there from treating me like this? It’s been four years since I left that place and I’m still haunted by it. That’s what bullying does – it leaves scars that won’t ever leave you.
Bullying comes in all shapes and forms: online, in person, through social media etc. I am a strong believer in the notion that not enough is done to catch these coward culprits and bring them to justice. From sharing intimate pictures of your ex as ‘revenge’ to sending death threats on social media, people ought to be punished. Cyber bullying isn’t taken as seriously as it should be, with the ramifications leaving a victim both emotionally and physically traumatised. A boy I grew up with committed suicide after being told to kill himself by another group of schoolboys in the same town as him. They spurred him on, told him they’d kill him if he didn’t go through with it. I cannot fathom how heartless a person can be if they can sleep at night after sending such messages. And to think, my friend’s death is on them now. How can one live with that? Cyber bullying should warrant more punishment, including sentencing and jail time depending on the crime.
Discriminating against someone because of their nationality, beliefs or religion is also unacceptable and ought to be treated with the same attitude as other crimes, too. Ultimately, discrimination is singling someone out from others because they’re different in some way or another. It’s making someone believe they’re inferior to you and treating them as such. I’m talking from recent experience, too. It’s unfair. We didn’t come this far in life, as a society and as a race, only to be defeated by each other. What a step backwards. Some people see bullying as childish: I see it as dangerously destructive.
Say NO to bullying, whatever form it comes in.